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Learning to Be on Your Own Side This ED Awareness Month

February is often associated with love, romantic gestures, heart-shaped reminders, and messages about connection. It is also Eating Disorder Awareness Month, a time dedicated to increasing understanding, reducing stigma, and reminding individuals and families that recovery is possible. But for many people navigating mental health challenges, eating disorder recovery, or body image distress, this time of year can highlight feelings of self-criticism, loneliness, or the belief that we are somehow falling short.

This February, we’re shifting the focus inward. Instead of asking how to love better or do more, we’re asking a gentler question: What would it look like to meet yourself with compassion, especially when things feel hard?


Self-compassion is not a soft or passive practice. It is a powerful, evidence-based skill that supports emotional regulation, resilience, and sustainable healing.



What Is Self-Compassion?

Self-compassion means responding to your own suffering with the same care, understanding, and patience you might offer to a close friend. According to researcher Dr. Kristin Neff, self-compassion has three core components:

  • Self-kindness instead of harsh self-judgment

  • Common humanity - recognizing that struggle is part of being human

  • Mindfulness - noticing pain without minimizing or exaggerating it


Rather than pushing yourself harder or criticizing your way into change, self-compassion invites support, safety, and emotional honesty.


Eating Disorder Awareness Month: Why Awareness and Compassion Matter

February is Eating Disorder Awareness Month - a time to increase understanding, challenge harmful stereotypes, and remind individuals and families that eating disorders are serious mental health conditions, not choices or failures.


Eating disorders affect people of all ages, genders, races, and body sizes. Yet stigma, misunderstanding, and diet culture often delay diagnosis and prevent people from seeking support. Awareness helps shine a light on the realities of eating disorders while compassion creates the conditions necessary for healing.

Research shows that millions of people will experience an eating disorder in their lifetime, and many struggle silently for years before receiving help. One of the most powerful antidotes to shame and secrecy is self-compassion - learning to meet suffering with kindness rather than judgment.


During Eating Disorder Awareness Month, we are reminded that recovery is not about willpower or perfection. It is about safety, support, nourishment, and learning to relate to ourselves with humanity.

“When we give ourselves compassion, we are opening our hearts in a way that can transform our lives.” — Kristin Neff

Why Awareness and Compassion Matter: Key Statistics


Content Note: The statistics below are shared to support awareness, not to alarm. Please read at your own pace and honor what feels supportive for you in this moment.


February is Eating Disorder Awareness Month, a time to increase understanding, challenge stigma, and amplify compassionate approaches to support, healing, and connection.


Here are some key facts that help illuminate how widespread eating disorders are and why awareness matters:


  • Approximately 9% of the U.S. population (roughly 28.8 million Americans) will experience an eating disorder in their lifetime. ANAD

  • Eating disorders result in about 10,200 deaths each year in the U.S., that’s roughly one death every 52 minutes. Eating Recovery Center

  • Less than 6% of individuals with eating disorders are medically underweight, dispelling the myth that someone must appear very thin to be struggling. ANAD

  • People with the most severe symptoms are up to 11 times more likely to attempt suicide than their peers without eating-disorder symptoms, and those with anorexia have a suicide risk 18 times higher than people without an eating disorder. ANAD

  • Eating disorders often co-occur with other mental health conditions, over 70% of people with eating disorders also experience anxiety, depression, or mood disorders. ANAD

  • Disordered eating and body dissatisfaction are common in adolescence: 60–70% of girls ages 10–14 report trying to lose weight, and 22% of children and adolescents exhibit unhealthy eating behaviors that could indicate or lead to an eating disorder. ANAD


These numbers remind us that eating disorders are not rare, superficial, or about willpower, they are complex mental health conditions affecting people of all ages, genders, and body types. Awareness helps reduce isolation and encourages earlier intervention, while self-compassion supports recovery from within.


Why Self-Compassion Matters for Mental Health

Many mental health challenges (anxiety, depression, trauma, and perfectionism) are fueled by an internal critic that says you’re not doing enough, being enough, or healing fast enough.

Self-compassion helps interrupt this cycle by:

  • Reducing shame and self-blame

  • Supporting nervous system regulation

  • Increasing emotional resilience

  • Encouraging help-seeking rather than withdrawal

  • Creating a sense of internal safety


Research consistently shows that people who practice self-compassion experience lower levels of anxiety and depression and greater overall psychological wellbeing.


Self-Compassion in Eating Disorder Recovery

Eating disorders often thrive on self-criticism, rigidity, and a belief that worth must be earned through control or perfection. Recovery, therefore, requires something radically different.


Self-compassion supports eating disorder recovery by:

  • Helping clients respond to slips with curiosity rather than punishment

  • Reducing all-or-nothing thinking

  • Making space for nourishment, rest, and flexibility

  • Softening the shame that keeps behaviors secretive

  • Supporting long-term change rather than short-term compliance


Recovery is not about being “good” at healing. It’s about learning how to stay present and kind when urges, fear, or discomfort show up.


Healing Body Image Through Compassion

Body image distress is often driven by comparison, internalized diet culture, and unrealistic expectations. Self-compassion shifts the goal from loving your body’s appearance to respecting your body’s humanity.

Compassionate body image practices might include:

  • Speaking to your body with neutrality or kindness

  • Wearing clothes that prioritize comfort over appearance

  • Reducing body checking and comparison

  • Honoring hunger, fullness, and fatigue cues

  • Reframing body changes as information, not failure


You don’t need to feel positive about your body every day to treat it with care. Compassion allows you to show up even on the hardest days.


What Self-Compassion Is Not

Many people hesitate to practice self-compassion because of common misconceptions. Self-compassion is not:

  • Letting yourself “off the hook”

  • Making excuses or avoiding responsibility

  • Giving up on growth or change

  • Ignoring harmful behaviors


In reality, self-compassion creates the emotional safety needed for meaningful, sustainable change. People are more likely to grow when they feel supported, not shamed.


Simple Ways to Practice Self-Compassion This Month

You don’t need to overhaul your life to practice self-compassion. Small, consistent moments matter.


Try these gentle practices:

  • Change your inner language. When you notice self-criticism, ask: What would I say to someone I care about right now?

  • Pause and breathe. Place a hand on your chest and take a few slow breaths when emotions rise.

  • Normalize struggle. Remind yourself: This is hard and I’m not alone in finding it hard.

  • Allow imperfection. Healing is not linear. Progress includes rest, setbacks, and uncertainty.

  • Reach for support. Self-compassion includes knowing when to ask for help.


A February Reflection

As you move through this month, consider this gentle reframe:

Instead of asking, “What’s wrong with me?” try asking, “What do I need right now?”

Instead of striving for more discipline or control, consider offering yourself patience, warmth, and understanding.



Honoring Eating Disorder Awareness Month

During Eating Disorder Awareness Month, we are reminded that recovery is not just about changing behaviors, it’s about changing how we relate to ourselves. Awareness grows when we replace shame with understanding and judgment with compassion.


Choosing self-compassion is an act of resistance against diet culture, stigma, and the belief that suffering must be hidden. It creates space for honesty, connection, and healing.


Closing Thoughts

Self-compassion is not a destination, it’s a practice you return to again and again. In eating disorder recovery, body image healing, and mental health work, compassion is often the missing ingredient that makes growth feel possible.


This February, may you choose softness where you once chose self-criticism. May you meet yourself with curiosity instead of judgment. And may you remember that you are worthy of care, not someday, not after you’ve improved, but right now, exactly as you are.


If self-compassion feels unfamiliar or difficult, therapy can be a supportive place to learn and practice these skills. You don’t have to do this alone.


-Courtney



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Disclaimer: This blog post is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical, mental health, or nutritional advice. The information provided is intended to support awareness, self-reflection, and general understanding of eating disorders, recovery, and self-compassion. If you are experiencing distress, struggling with an eating disorder, or have concerns about your mental or physical health, please seek guidance from a local licensed healthcare or mental health professional.

 
 
 

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